Want to make someone blush? Just mention sex. (How many of you just blushed reading that word?) It’s a topic many people (especially in religious circles) steer away from discussing – even with their mates. They think it’s taboo, awkward, or even too sensitive of a subject to talk about. Some were raised to believe sex was naughty and bad, so they feel shame bringing it up. (Maybe you’re already uncomfortable reading this…hang in there with me, friend.)

However, sexual intimacy is a key part of a happy, healthy marriage. We’re sexual beings with sexual needs. I want to sexually please my hubby and I want him to sexually please me too. It’s one of the big perks of a committed marriage – or at least I think so 😉

Well, it’s time to tackle the topic with our mates. Thanks to Dr. Kevin Leman’s Sheet Music, sex doesn’t have to be an off limits topic. And yes, ladies, here’s a book your hubbies may actually read with you! 

As is true of most of Leman’s books, he’s warm and comical – not making a mockery of sex, but instead addressing the elephant in the room and setting his readers at ease. I did blush a couple times, but I also laughed several times too. I appreciate his authentic approach to the conversation of sex instead of treating it like a weird biology class or sex ed class talk. Reading Sheet Music was like having a chat with a friend. Without being super technically OR  inappropriate, Leman gets frank with us while talking about “Mr. Happy” and “The Big O.”

I’ve been married for over a decade, but I wish I’d read Sheet Music when we were engaged. It would’ve been helpful for addressing my expectations and fears about our upcoming sexual relationship. Even as a newly married couple, this book would’ve helped me have healthy understandings of what sex is and what sex isn’t and about the differences in intimacy for men and for women.

Sheet Music is a great resource to help articulate and address all of your questions, including masturbation and oral sex. (Yep, told you you might blush.) If you and your mate have been struggling in the sex department or struggling to communicate well about it, this book helps get couples on the same page. It opens up comfortable conversation about sex and encourages you enjoy the heck out of your sex life (woo-hoo).

Maybe you’ve been married a while. Sheet Music has suggestions for amping up the intimacy and reigniting some serious heat. In his chapter on “Thirty-One Flavors,” you’ll review some creative, new ideas to make you want to lock the bedroom door and turn down the lights (or maybe even turn ON the lights – go wild, friend). And yes, Leman even tackles the topics of dry spells after babies and physical changes associated with age like erectile dysfunction and menopause.

Sheet Music leaves no stone (or bed sheet) unturned. I appreciate how Leman never attacks or blames either gender for sexual obstacles. Rather, he advocates for the pleasure, fulfillment, and happiness of the couple as a whole.

Expect to blush, expect to giggle, and expect to walk away equipped to better your marriage through physical intimacy. I feel confident you’ll enjoy the book and I’m hoping you’ll really enjoy the outcomes (wink-wink).

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